tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post115987157002289963..comments2010-02-22T10:30:02.128+02:00abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558abufares@abufares.netBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-19218639228914329332010-02-22T10:30:02.128+02:002010-02-22T10:30:02.128+02:00@Fenella<br />The ironic truth of life is that by the time we find our bearing we are too far ahead down the road.<br />I will veer toward my heart&#39;s choice against cross and headwinds for as long as I can.<br />I made my mom as happy as I could back then. Someday it will be my turn to find my true course.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-60886754941305504572010-02-22T05:23:47.981+02:002010-02-22T05:23:47.981+02:00Isn&#39;t it amazing how life goes? We take steps in one direction and then wonder what would have happened if we&#39;d gone in the other.<br /><br />You made your mother happy and proud. A very sweet and introspective post, Abufares. :)Fenellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-36493737592070992512008-12-14T20:47:00.000+02:002008-12-14T20:47:00.000+02:00Don't cry for me ... Mariyah<BR/>I remembered the song.<BR/><BR/>There's never a correct or wrong turn... as long as we continue walking.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-80679909849658776512008-12-14T18:21:00.000+02:002008-12-14T18:21:00.000+02:00Abu Fares, the tears flowed as I read this. An experience so unique to you and yet so many emotions shared by others who have had to make a similar decision. What a touching moment with your mother - these are the things that stay with us forever.Mariyahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12607860742976353292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1161857130584907442006-10-26T12:05:00.000+02:002006-10-26T12:05:00.000+02:00Dear Ingrid<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your wonderful feedback. Leaving home and starting a new life has never been easy. It's true that for some people the decision is easier than for some others. But in the end, no matter how miserable one's life is, with the move there's a sense of being uprooted. I think you have crossed the hurdle a long time ago. In retrospect, I'm almost sure that if I didn't make that decision to return there and then, in all probablity I would've been still there and we would've been neighbors. I liked the South in the US. Up until this very moment, I still consider Lafayette, La. my home away from home.<BR/>I, too, am following your blog and I really enjoy your posts.<BR/>Thanks again.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1161823021749408332006-10-26T02:37:00.000+02:002006-10-26T02:37:00.000+02:00Abu fares, this post really got me straight in my heart. Like you, I had emigrated (from the Netherlands) to Canada (at first, now in US) and I left when I was 20. I realize now, I was running from personal issues and sought out to find happiness 'outside' of myself and the 'old world'. Very much outside. Now, I'm 42, and I am starting to think of what would have happened if I had returned home after the one year nanny job for which I left Holland, and my mom. I find myself being melancholic too because I feel I could not readjust to life in the Netherlands, never mind that my American husband could not live there I don't think plus he has a great job and life in North America does have its advantages. Still, I've been going through some soul searching in general and when I read this post a while back, I just ended up crying. You went back, I didn't. My mother is still alive and well, but what would I do when she gets sick? She does not like life in the US at all, plus she actually has more of a (social) life than I do. The one thing I miss is the social aspects of how people relate to each other. The Dutch culture is so different than the American one. <BR/>Anyway, I was too emotional to comment when I first read this, but now, I have to share it with you, thanks for posting this. I think many emigrants can relate to this,<BR/>blessings<BR/>IngridIngridhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03655047343338303335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160314096933026212006-10-08T15:28:00.000+02:002006-10-08T15:28:00.000+02:00Dear Dubai Jazz<BR/>Thank you for the wonderful compliments, although I honestly don't think that I deserve that much. I'm happy to know that my words might bring solace to the younger generation. I truly believe that we measure our lives by decades in the essence that peoplein their twenties are different from those in their thirties and forties, ...etc.<BR/>It's a shame. We could all learn from each other. The younger some experience from the older and the older some spontaneity from the younger.<BR/>Again, thank you for your visitabufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160298204747369492006-10-08T11:03:00.000+02:002006-10-08T11:03:00.000+02:00Abu Fares, what a great post! Thanks a lot for sharing your ‘vintage’ experience with the younger generation. Comparing with other people, we Syrians seem to be more nostalgic and homesick when abroad. I think it has to do with the vivid family and social atmosphere we have at home.<BR/>Keep posting my friend, for you are a mentor, a rule model and inspiration!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160244520468876652006-10-07T20:08:00.000+02:002006-10-07T20:08:00.000+02:00Dear Ihsan<BR/>May God protect your mom for you.<BR/>It's too early for you to make such a decision. So you shouldn't worry about it at all for the time being. When the time comes, you'll do what is best, I'm sure of that. I have to say it yet again, my decision was not based on courage. Each person will go through certain given circumstances and has to act accordingly. Just think of an individual life like a football game. No 2 games are the same and each one is completely unique. Just be sure you don't play a boring game. Give it your best, then we win some we lose some. It doesn't really matter.<BR/>Thank you for your visit.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160240148598358502006-10-07T18:55:00.000+02:002006-10-07T18:55:00.000+02:00I coudn't stop a tear while reading your post Abu-Fares. My mom keeps saying the same as your late mom, may her soul rest in peace, but with the difference that I have only been away for one year. It's early to take such a decision, I still need few more years. Thanks for this great post and I do aplaud your courage of taking such a decision that I, myself, may not be able to take it when the time comes.Ihsanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15610495368113155552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160135427333738672006-10-06T13:50:00.000+02:002006-10-06T13:50:00.000+02:00I\'m really glad you liked the post. Thank you for the wonderful compliment.<BR/>Please come again.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160135194249440802006-10-06T13:46:00.000+02:002006-10-06T13:46:00.000+02:00Thank you for this amazing post Abu Fares.<BR/>Thanks for being so open, and such a wonderful person.Shadinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160130119493083742006-10-06T12:21:00.000+02:002006-10-06T12:21:00.000+02:00Hi Abu Abdo<BR/>I'm glad you've commented because you know that you've been a great part of my past. Has it not been to the fact that we live worlds apart, we would've still be enjoying each other's company today.<BR/>I hope this Ramadan is not that hard on you down under.<BR/>Always a pleasure hearing from you.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160129982730034632006-10-06T12:19:00.000+02:002006-10-06T12:19:00.000+02:00Thank you Ali for motivating me in the first place to write such a post.<BR/>I truly don't believe that my decision was corageous since I wasn't doing it as a sacrifice. I did what I thought "better" at the time. I'm happy and content that it turned out the way it did.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160108059009779492006-10-06T06:14:00.000+02:002006-10-06T06:14:00.000+02:00Even though I know quite a few things about you, I was not aware of how you took that "turn". As always, this post was very nice to read.<BR/><BR/>Rick, nice to hear from you<BR/><BR/>Abu AbdoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160107037201604352006-10-06T05:57:00.000+02:002006-10-06T05:57:00.000+02:00Here you are again dear Abufares!! <BR/>I am more than satisfied with your wonderful post. It must’ve required a great deal of courage and firmness to undertake such turns!!!<BR/>Anyway, your flying experience reminded me with what Al-Motanabi once said:<BR/> فما حاولت على أرض مقاما ,,,وماأزمعت عن أرض زوالا<BR/>على قلق كأن الرح تحتي ,,,,,أوجهها جنوبا أو شمالا<BR/><BR/>Again, it is indeed a wonderful entry<BR/>In any case, thank you for responding for my request<BR/>AliAlinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160082086447839592006-10-05T23:01:00.000+02:002006-10-05T23:01:00.000+02:00Dear Shannon<BR/><BR/>Thank you for reading my story and taking the time to comment on it.<BR/>I really appreciate it.<BR/>I'm glad you liked it.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1160072141876517522006-10-05T20:15:00.000+02:002006-10-05T20:15:00.000+02:00What an awesome story...Thanks for sharing it with us.Shannonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00927461720674933588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1159999817361431312006-10-05T00:10:00.000+02:002006-10-05T00:10:00.000+02:00Dear Chet<BR/>If anything, your words humble me.<BR/>I thank you for taking the time to read one personal story of mine.<BR/>I, too, am amazed by the brotherly bond I feel toward you. Your stories are always a great motivation for me and for all of your readers.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1159995169023917272006-10-04T22:52:00.000+02:002006-10-04T22:52:00.000+02:00My friend, your story is of great interest and hopefully the younger generation will be able to dream of what you have done and live it. Your are an amazing person. I feel like I have known you for years. You have a lot to give and share with the world. Thank you for sharing this part of your life.Chethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08983584755707603669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1159981612256608292006-10-04T19:06:00.000+02:002006-10-04T19:06:00.000+02:00Dear Karin<BR/>You're welcome to drop in anytime. You were not late at all. I only posted this yesterday.<BR/>Thank you for your nice words and I know that you mean what you say.<BR/>I'm happy you've been here, although as I've indicated in the beginning of the post, it didn't occur to me that such a story is of zny interest to anyone.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1159978264563645262006-10-04T18:11:00.000+02:002006-10-04T18:11:00.000+02:00Hi abufares, I want to introduce you to <A HREF="http://freearticle.name" REL="nofollow">http://freearticle.name</A>AnJakahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11471906751422150447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1159964210640091502006-10-04T14:16:00.000+02:002006-10-04T14:16:00.000+02:00I guess I'm pretty darn late this time and I apologize for that - I wouldn't have missed this post for anything though! You well know I'm never handing out fake compliments and I did like ALL your posts a lot - but this is the one which impressed me most, which stunned me - which I like best! <BR/><BR/>What wonderful memories you are having of this last flight with your great mom .. I am sure, it meant the world to you - and her alike! Your fulfilled her biggest dream and that alone says it all ...<BR/><BR/>You're a truly remarkable person abufares, very caring, very considerate - and I do consider myself fortunate to be able call you a dear friend. Thanks so much for sharing these glimpses - they give a clear indication of your wonderful character as well as mindset and show without any doubt the beauty of your soul!I love Munichhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00824067975657198924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1159963611420871692006-10-04T14:06:00.000+02:002006-10-04T14:06:00.000+02:00Hi Ascribo<BR/>There's always a buildup before it manifests itself in a final decision making moment. The minute signs were there all competing for attention. But, in the end, no matter what the decision is, one has to make it in an infinitesimal instant of time. One has to finally say, left or right, black or white, ye or no.abufareshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528721595411746558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26866567.post-1159962316519602762006-10-04T13:45:00.000+02:002006-10-04T13:45:00.000+02:00Thank you for your kind words Abufares...<BR/><BR/>I was thinking, do you really made that decision in one night? Easier decisions take me days and night to say anything, and unless there's one big force pushing me in one direction, I find it really hard to choose...<BR/><BR/>So did you really think about all the odds, or you were pushed by nostalgie?<BR/><BR/>I'd like to knowAscribohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09529102078749291013noreply@blogger.com